A WOMAN has revealed that men are “ashamed” to be seen in public with her because of her plus-size body – but says she always gets the last laugh.
Alex Aspasia is well-known for her body-positive attitude, where she embraces her curves no matter what.
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But when it comes to dating, it’s proving to be quite a challenge.
The 31-year-old, who got divorced last year, has been searching high and low for Mr Right – and while she’s had many suitors, there’s been a recurring issue.
They are “too ashamed” to be seen in public with her.
In a clip, which has racked up 987,000 views and over 199,000 likes, she revealed how she gets the last laugh by staying single.
“I’ve been back in the dating world and it’s been an eye-opening experience,” the size 26 model, who is 6ft tall and weighs 385lbs, told What’s The Jam.
“Despite the online hate I receive, I’ve found that plenty of men are interested in dating me.
“For most, that interest stays behind closed doors, as if they’re ashamed to be seen with a larger woman.
“I dated one guy who admitted that he doesn’t want anyone to know about us.
“And said that his family wouldn’t approve because of my size.
“It’s pretty traumatising when you get to know someone, develop feelings, and then they tell you you’re not good enough to be introduced on their arm simply because of how much you weigh.
“I’ve had professional athletes and rappers in my DMs, which proves that the idea you have to fit into a certain body to be liked isn’t true.”
Alex, who hails from Miami, US, says that men are “drawn” to her “unapologetic confidence” as it’s “rare” to find that nowadays – especially in those plus-size.
She said: “I know that kind of confidence can be magnetic.
“But I’m looking for someone who wants me for who I am, not my curves.
“I want a relationship built on genuine connection, not just attraction.”
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In the video, Alex sits by herself in a restaurant, with the caption: “Another Saturday night alone because men love fat girls in [their] bed and not in public.”
Users have flocked to the comments to share their reactions.
“Don’t let them have you in private if they don’t want you in public,” someone commented. [sic]
Ana said: “Ur too beautiful for them either way.” [sic]
“So true. But claim to love big girls only to hide us,” Nicole added. [sic]
Brooke said: “Facts. My 20s were full of closet chubby chasers. I found a man who loves every inch of me in the bedroom and in public. He DGAF what anybody thinks. He’s proud to have me.” [sic]
“If one man doesn’t want you, five others will. Don’t ever settle,” added Shelly.
Alex added: “Dating as a plus-size woman is harder because men just lust after you.
“And the majority want to experience you, but don’t know how to fit you into their world because of the harsh judgment we receive.
“I still have hope that I will find somebody, and I want to tell people not to settle.
“It’s complicated.
“But I refuse to entertain anyone who would keep me a secret.”